Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Quiet Time is Elusive to Bullied Nurses

We surely treasure valuable times with our loved ones, but we also cherish those times that we have spent alone. As for nurses, though, besides charting and routine rounds, non-compliant patients, and bullies could also be making them busy even during their day off. Perhaps, even before sleeping, such issues suddenly pop in the mind and continuously linger there for several hours, disrupting your precious resting time.

“It came to me before that even on bath time, bullying scenes would start on me just like that. And it takes a lot of effort to really set the mind in a calm and quiet mood once more. In such a time, I would wish for a travel to the suburb and get my self some quiet time for meditation, enjoyment of the beautiful sceneries, maybe a plunge a soothing hot spring, or simply be able to relax with nature. But I cannot simply own a quite time.

Because a quiet time seems to be too elusive, I try not to chase or look for it at all. When something or someone makes me all too bothered, annoyed, or down, I try to turn that time into something more constructive and valuable by seeking for the light behind their dark auras. It gives me that relieving feeling that I know there is always a way around to any issue. It helps me develop patience and empathy better. And when I succeed in luring away literal noise and psychological echoes, I try to focus on every little and big thing that I think would improve my personality and career. They seldom work, though.”

What can you do?

Aside from reporting the incidents of bullying and trying to handle the bullies by yourself, seeking support of a trusted friend is also important. Although, most of the time, our old friends and loved ones are the ones who give the greatest support, it would be best to also get it from somebody who works with you. Immediately reaching their shoulders and hearing their kind words will do enormous relief.

Making a journal of the bullying incidents and how were you able to handle the situation without stooping down to their level can also make great difference. While you read through your notes, you could still find some effective and rational ways on how you can better deal bullying, how you can avoid bullying, and how you can defend yourself from bullies.

What hospitals can do?

Treat these bullies like burglars or even terrorists by setting up CCTV cameras. These would not just provide proofs to the claims of nurses who are being bullied and protect them from getting bullies, but prevent the bullies from becoming all too comfortable with what they do as well. I personally feel that it's an obligation of hospital administrations to not just provide quality health care for patients, but also safe and happy working environment for employees.